What You See… Isn’t What You Get

Hello all!
Here is the link to my website:


It was a lot of work but I am very happy with the finished product.  I wanted to show all of you that you are more than just a “like” on a social media page.  I also added ways to detox and to showed positive examples of women who are more than just what people read in magazines, but who actually want to give back to this beautiful Earth.  I think it is very important to understand that social media is not real and that it is a mostly filtered reality, one that should not influence the way we live.

As Hailee Steinfeld would say, “Gonna love myself, no, I don’t need anybody else”.  Remember that you are so much more than what the internet says.


I’m Moving!

Hello loyal followers,

Over the course of the next few weeks I will be creating my own website! I will be using wix to present to my fellow feminists the effects of social media in our everyday culture.  I hope it to be a self-love and self-empowerment type of website that shows to all you beautiful people that beauty comes from the inside and that even though we live in a culture full of “ways to better yourself”, the best way to live is to love yourself.

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My goals for the website are to find the best ways to find peace and love in this crazy world.  I want to figure out how each one of you can feel beautiful in your own skin and to discover how to find your talents that make you one of a kind.  I also plan to research the effects of social media on development and how we as a society will learn not to take the internet so seriously (I definitely need to work on this).

My inspiration for this website comes from the Australian 18-year-old Essena O’Neill, who with many followers on Instagram chose to shut down her social media and claims “social media is not real life” (Read more here).  I think it is important to understand that there is a real story behind every Instagram and Twitter post, one that many times the poster of the picture neglects to share.

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I made this Storify page in order to demonstrate one social media phenomenon that allowed women to share their stories of fear and discrimination that they face in their everyday lives.  The hashtag was created in response to Elliot Rodger, the 2014 Isla Vista shooter who posted a video describing how women’s rejection made him want to “punish” them.  The hashtag became very popular, so I attempted to show the best tweets and news stories as response to it.  Check it out!


Wikipedia Contribution for Feminists 101

I recently made my first contribution to the Wikipedia page “Feminism and media”.  I chose to contribute to this specific page because I thought it needed some positive information.  Under the social media section of the page you will find:

“In addition, celebrities such as Emma Watson have also taken a pro-feminist stance through social media. In 2014, the UN Women’s Ambassador stated,” I am from Britain and think it is right that as a woman I am paid the same as my male counterparts. I think it is right that I should be able to make decisions about my own body. I think it is right that women be involved on my behalf in the policies and decision-making of my country. I think it is right that socially I am afforded the same respect as men. But sadly I can say that there is no one country in the world where all women can expect to receive these rights.”[9] Her speech also goes into depth about the negative connotation the word feminist has because of social media and how we as a society can take a stand for gender equality.”

Link to Emma Watson’s speech

Narrative for the Girls

I have always been an observer, I love looking at people and trying to understand what they are feeling and what made them become the person that they are. When I first created my Myspace page in the summer of seventh grade (under the watching eyes of my mother), I was hooked. The Internet soon became a safe haven for me, to me everything felt safer and the fantasy of the Internet soon overcame reality. 

I started spending all my time on the computer, doing nothing but looking at pictures and social media. I have always been shy, so talking to people through a screen became easy for me. I would wake up and run to the computer, hoping to get to it before my brothers woke up to play a video game on it. It began to consume my young teenage life.

The fantasy land of the Internet is not always a good thing.  The problem is not everything on the Internet is real or true. In addition, there are so many new ways to hurt a person.  Girls on Instagram and other social media are constantly slut shamed for their posts, and even though it is behind a screen their words are destructive.  Below is just one example that I was able to find immediately:



But that’s not forget about Twitter, where people can make accounts that focus on just slut-shaming women:


What a meninist is I’m still sure but in any case this Twitter account shows the Internet in its truest form.  People can post and comment on anything and because people are not researching what is real and what is not they are believing it. Society seems to be making their own reality because new media has allowed them to lose contact with the real world in order for reality to begin imitating the model. No wants to really know the reality of the world because everyone would rather focus on their attention the fascination with their own reality.  

Even today when I go on social media parody accounts like Meninist take up my entire timeline.  It’s sad to me that people will blow up an issue just for the sake of it. Donald Trump can tell a woman that he would like to see her on her knees and implies that Megyn Kelly was on her period  (Read article here) for asking tough questions during a debate and he’s still allowed to run for president? His face is plastered all over social media even though he is a bully in the presidential election.  

 These days it seems that it is much easier to hide behind a screen.  People are bullied constantly online and what people are reading online are constantly affecting their own thoughts and beliefs.  Although it is 2015, the word feminist still carries a negative connotation, even though it’s definition is simply to have equal treatment to men.  

Photoshopping Beauty

The problem with real life and photoshopped magazine covers is that many people can’t tell the difference.  Women’s bodies and faces are plastered over these covers with headings that read something about pleasing a man and another telling the reader it will give the “real story” about the face on the cover. Although some magazines are really empowering, many show the same headlines:

The problem with these covers are the people who see them and cannot tell that these women and men are photoshopped and that these bodies and faces are not real, but edited and framed to fit the standard of beauty these magazines create.   

As Jennifer Siebel Newsom states, “Exposure to celebrity drama and the implicit acceptance that this type of behavior is normal can have a real impact on the way girls behave and interact with each other in their own lives, It’s important that girls learn to recognize what’s real and what’s manipulated to attract eyeballs and viewers.”(Read more about Dove self-esteem project)

It is also important to take into consideration when distinguishing photoshop with reality is the standards and norms it sets up for young children.  Young girls can look at these covers and want to look like these women because they have no other reality of what a woman should look like. 

However, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.  Women like Jennifer Lawerence have spoke out against the amount of Photoshop and they all say the same thing: We are beautiful without it.


Let’s Hear it for the Girl

Ted Talk:

In this Ted Talk, Monica Lewinsky shows her audience just how hurtful words can be. Based on her own experience, it’s not a surprise that she stayed hidden and silent for so many years- being shamed by millions of strangers online and off would make anyone want to go away. But this video brings up an important point about cyberbulling and for the sake of this blog- woman. Why is it okay for people to call women tramps, whores and sluts?  We all remember the Miley Cyrus and Robin Thicke episode at the 2013 VMAS (Watch here). Why is she more to blame than Thicke? She, of course, was the one labeled the “whore” for even dancing with him. However, Robin Thicke is the grown man who went through the rehearsals and saw what was happening and as a grown man chose to accept it and go along with it. So was is Miley the only one being labeled badly? No one wants to see her as the one starting charities for the homeless youth or the one releasing free albums to her fans.   

 Why do we as a society feel the need to label other girls as whores even though we are all in this world together. This easily accessible Ted Talk demonstrates the permanence of the Internet and how words, no matter if they are hidden behind computers, hurt and can completely destroy people’s lives and reputations. 

Hello World!

“A #GIRLBOSS is in charge of her own life.  She gets what she wants because she works for it.” – Sophia Amoruso

In this blog, I will attempt to show the strengths in women throughout new media.  Rather than focusing on what these celebrities are wearing or who they are dating I’m going to show the other side.  I want to put a positive light on these women through demonstrating how they are some badass girls that start their own charities or fight for political and social equality.  I will do these girls justice by treating them as strong independent women who can be role models for anyone once they are not shown in such a negative light and are presented as women who can do anything just as good as a man could – sometimes even better.

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